Save Veronica submitted the following letter to the editor of The Post and Courier. A version was published on Feb. 17, 2012. Here is the original letter.
In response to last Sunday’s letter, “Responsible birth parents are best option,” I would like to address Mrs. Holloway’s opinions. I recognize that someone not closely involved with Veronica’s situation may have a different viewpoint than my own, especially if she is basing her opinion on external coverage. However, it seems unfair to write such a strong opinion without knowing this family and a thorough understanding of the complexities of South Carolina law. In fact, the complexities are such that the South Carolina Supreme Court has accepted the case.
I’m writing as the lead organizer of the “Save Veronica” campaign and a close friend to the Capobiancos. It is my firsthand involvement that motivated me, along with thousands of others, to stand up for what is just and right. We are standing up for Veronica. We are her voice. Unlike Mrs. Halloway, she didn’t have a chance to state her opinion.
Mrs. Holloway says the birth father should be commended. He didn’t support the birth mother or her unborn child. I don’t consider that ‘responsible’ at all. If he is commended, what type of example are we setting for our own children? The birth mother is who should be commended, not the birth father. She knew she couldn’t provide for Veronica and made a very difficult decision to ensure her child would have a better life.
The notion that the Capobiancos should have turned Veronica over at four months is irrational. I’ve heard this from other individuals that don’t understand the complexities of this case. As her adoptive parents it was their responsibility to protect her and to do what was in her best interest. That is exactly what they were doing.
Three weeks ago, on behalf of our supporters and all the families negatively impacted by the Indian Child Welfare Act, myself and another supporter delivered a petition with more than 20,000 signatures to South Carolina’s top policy makers and Gov. Nikki Haley. Our intent is not to overturn the law but to request provisions to ensure the law is not a blanket law that only serves the rights of biological parents and tribes. Based on the response we have seen from other families impacted by this law, there is clearly something wrong with the way this law is being used.
I will agree with Mrs. Holloway that the true test of love sometimes requires us to give up someone we cherish. Veronica’s birth mother passed that test by making the most selfless decision a parent could make. Her birth father on the other hand made a selfish decision – potentially causing psychological damage to his child and changing the course of Veronica’s life forever.
Mount Pleasant, SC